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This week’s reading was some of the most fascinating so far for me. I definitely consider myself a heavy user of social media, with Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter, Snapchat, and Instagram accounts. Working in the world of tech, it is almost a requirement to be engaged with social media to some degree.  My social media accounts are important for family, friendships, my professional learning network, news, and many other functions. What I found so engaging this week, were the eye opening experiences I read about, which really shifted my understanding of how teens engage with social media.

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When I think about the way I communicated with my friends as a teenager, compared to how students communicate today, I would honestly say the only difference is that the speed of the communication has changed. Friendships are paramount to teens, just like they were to me, and maintaining those friendships just as important. Additionally, being in the know was part of the friendship experience for me; who was dating who, when was the next party, and many other topics as outlined in the articles that we read.  With the addition of smartphones, teens are able to always be in touch, and I believe have more friendships that are far reaching. As an adult, growing into social media use, I have seen the way I interact with my friends change, and remain the same. Being able to connect with family and friends from afar is a huge benefit as an international teacher, but I also value being able to sit down, face to face, and catch up with family and friends, unplugged, unwired.

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I would like to think that I was pretty up to speed on how students used social media. Having taught teenagers most of my career and having had good relationships with kids I could ask them questions about how they interact with social media and get a pretty honest response.  However, when I read Like. Flirt Ghost: A Journey Into the Social Media Lives of Teens and 13 Right Now I definitely had my eyes opened even more. Some of the new learning for me was how dependent teens were on getting “likes” and “emojis” from their peers or crushes. Also, the fact that they combed through their social media profiles deleting pics if they were older, or if they did not garner enough attention.  Additionally, I was surprised that there were so many unwritten rules about how one interacted with others through social media, or maintained their own account. I had the chance to talk to some junior and senior level students at my school, and in terms of Instagram, they were indeed able to confirm some of these unwritten rules. Although, these students did not spend so much time deleting posts that did not have a certain amount of likes, they definitely spent time “cleaning out” their Instagram accounts, so that only the best of the best photos survived. Specifically, in the article 13 Right Now, the father Dave, spoke about the fact that his daughter, Katherine, has never had some of her very best friends over to their home. I recall having friends over all the time as teenagers, in fact one of my best friends practically lived with us for a while.  I could not imagine growing up and not visiting my friend’s houses. Part of me wants to question the authenticity of the friendships that form solely digitally, but another part of me thinks that I need to also understand that norms change, ways of human interaction change, and paradigm shifts happen.

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The pace of communication has changed drastically, and so has access to information. This has affected the way in which social interactions take place. Teens can spend time nurturing those relationships that are important to them. While this is important, teens can literally be connected with their friends 24 hours a day, and they are in some cases. Statistics tell us that teens are indeed sleeping less, from 2012 to 2015 the number of teens sleeping less than 7 hours per night jumped 22 percent according to two US National Surveys (Analysis: Teens are sleeping less. Why? Smartphones).  From the teens I spoke with at my school, all of them keep their smartphones with them at night, and only a few power down the device. This is why even older teens need guidance and support from parents when managing their social media and smartphone usage.

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Recently, there was a great article from the Washington Post, entitled: New report: Most teens say social media makes them feel better, not worse, about themselves. This article has lots of informative statistics on teen use of social media, but the key takeaway is that, overall, teens are much happier on social media than we would expect.  And I think this makes a lot of sense. As discussed above, their relationships have shifted to the digital space, and so, if there interactions are taking place in this space, then of course they are going to be much happier here. They have grown up in this space and with relationships in this space, so putting our adult lens on it does not make sense, because we cannot truly understand it, as our experiences were much different.  The other point that I would like to comment on is that there are those segments of teens who are vulnerable and do experience cyber-bullying, or those that might come across inappropriate content. This is where parents still need to be involved and have conversations with their kids about what they are doing in a digital space, even when parents think their kids are old enough to manage, they still need to keep dialogue open.

One of my favourite YouTube channels has always been Crash Course, by John Green. His videos are quick paced, informative and very witty. I used many snippets when I taught World History.  He recently had a 10 part series on Digital Information, with the final episode dedicated to social media. It is definitely worth the watch:

“When we’re this reliant on a media ecosystem full of pollution, we have to take responsibility for what we read, post and share. And to do that we should fully understand how social media networks really function including the good stuff, and also the terrible stuff.” This quote from John Green is powerful, and speaks to why dialogue with parents and a good digital citizenship program are essential for kids. Our teens are spending a great deal of time on social media and as such are seeing all sorts of ideology, advertisements, and news. Teaching them how to decipher what is real from fake, and how to search laterally for information is a vital skill.

This week more than any, I am really curious about what my peers and others experiences were like in speaking with students around the topic of social media? What were your new insights? How did your thinking shift from what you thought before?

6 thoughts on “An Eye Opening Experience

  1. Hey Ryan, I am a Coetail 10 participant and I’m glad I fell upon your blog post today. I too remember being enlightened by what I found out about social media use and kids. It really is amazing to see how different kids are growing up now compared to how we interacted socially. Learning about it has also definitely made me a better mother of 3 and first grade teacher. Being able to step into their mindset of the world is so valuable so we as adults can help them make good choices when it comes to using social media. The thing that is most surprising to me is how young kids are really getting involved in using social media even before the age of 13. Even my children (9,7, and 5) and my first grade students already have so many interactions online socially because of games like Minecraft, Roblox, Fortnite, etc. I am also mentoring a 5th grader for PYP Exhibition right now whose topic is about “How Social Media Affects Your Life” so I will be using some of the articles you mentioned to give him some insight into his inquiry. So keep on engaging kiddos in those meaningful conversations about it because this kind of interacting is definitely here to stay for a while.


    1. Hi Jessica, thanks for stopping by! My twins are 9 years old and I am definitely starting to have these conversations with them. Although they do not have any social media accounts, they both have an ipad, so we are already negotiating what screen time looks like and when, and where in the home they can use the device. My children as well are starting to have interactions online, we use Google Hangouts to communicate with friends and family back home and around the world, and having an understanding of what appropriate conversations look like and sound like is important.


  2. Hey Ryan,

    Thanks for the thought provoking post. There were several things that really stood out to me from the post this week. One of them was: “part of me wants to question the authenticity of the friendships that form solely digitally, but another part of me thinks that I need to also understand that norms change, ways of human interaction change, and paradigm shifts happen.” I think that this is an idea that I tried to touch on in my post as well to a certain degree. I think the thing I would say is more or less that technology is changing rapidly and because of that the nature of our relationships as well as identities as people are also changing at rapid paces. It’s no wonder that kids that are 1-2+ generations separated from us that we feel there is a huge communication shift– the changes in communication technologies in the last 10 years alone have been massive: 10 years ago, people didn’t walk around with a computer/camera that is always connected to the internet… IN THEIR POCKETS. What a wonderful thing to have access to. But I can’t help but wonder, are we experimenting on ourselves with this rapidly changing technologies that are making the changes in paradigms also change rapidly? Curious to hear your thoughts.




    1. Hi Alex, you touched on one of my points that most resonated with me, and has still left me pondering, and that is the authenticity of the relationships that students have through social media. You are right, the power of the device that we have, 24 hours a day, at our finger tips is outstanding. You can literally live stream from anywhere. I do think we are experimenting on ourselves to a certain degree. As you very well know, many of these technologies are brand new, look at AI and VR for instance. We really don’t have any longitudinal studies on any of these areas, and others, including, screen time, gaming, social media, it is all an experiment, and it will be fascinating to see what these effects are on us years from now.


  3. Hey Ryan,
    Your post this week was insightful and well-written. I’m also loving the back and forth in your comments. You and Alex both highlight the importance of seeing the larger picture and recognizing that the speed at which technology is changing is only a small piece of the puzzle. Our bodies and brains are adapting to this change in many ways, but it’s not yet known what long-term effects will be. While exploring the resources this week and reading through others’ blogs, I found myself turning the questions around and having to ask myself some of the things I ask kids about their use:
    – How often do I ‘power down’?
    – What percentage of my screen time is used to connect on social media?
    – What rules do I self-impose to promote the healthy use of technology?
    – Do I seek validation from likes, comments, retweets, etc?

    Doing this course has forced me to reflect more about my habits and choices, and that’s not always a pleasant task… but so good for us. Anyway, keep fostering those relationships, maintaining that dialogue and modeling what we hope to see for the students!
    Have a great week ahead.


    1. Reyna, thanks for the reply! I am really glad that my post caused you to ask some really insightful, and difficult, questions. We could all benefit from pausing and asking ourselves those four questions. I think for many of us in tech roles it becomes such a challenge to power down, because we can always find a way to make an excuse that it relates to work. That does not mean it is right, but we can find ourselves doing that, and we must step back and reflect!


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